Body Positivity – #RockTheBump

 

Like so many others out there, I have suffered with a poor self image for so many years. Mostly revolving around weight. I’ve always felt like I was chubby and overweight and like that somehow made me feel less pretty or worth less than other girls my age.
The stupid thing of course is that I wish I was as fat now as I thought I was then!

I wasn’t fat. I was barely chubby. But a few insensitive comments made when I was younger really affected me. It’s completely ridiculous how much negative comments can deeply affect us, and no amount of positive ones can level that out. I’m not the only one like this surely?

And I know for a fact that if Mr H ever reads this he’ll be shaking his head and saying “I tell you this ALL THE TIME!” but we don’t listen to the ones we love right? Because they’re just being nice, glossing over our imperfections. But it’s because they don’t see them, they just see the great things about us!

18 Weeks

Bizarrely enough I am more body positive when I am at my biggest, most distended, and have the strangest things going on to my body. When I’m pregnant. I know not everyone can feel this way, so I feel incredibly lucky that I do.

Part of it is that I don’t have to feel like I’m holding in my belly. That may sound shallow or even greedy (I can eat all the cheese I want!!) but I find that I can embrace my belly rather than hide it under baggy tops. It’s supposed to be big and no one really cares. There is of course the unsolicitated comments that come with pregnancy (“are you having twins!?” “You’re only how many weeks? You’re huge!!”) But overall I feel less judged about my weight.

Uh…yes!!

My biggest concern for myself as this pregnancy gets close to ending, is that I’ll lose this love for my body and the confidence I have, just like I did the first time round.

22 weeks

 

It’s a thought that currently has no plan. But it’s something that I’m far more aware of this time round. For one thing a happy and positive parent can help create happy and positive children.

I’m already getting help from Secret Saviours a product  which can actually prevent stretch marks!

Secret Saviours kit

I already had stretch marks from my previous pregnancy and weight gains, but despite only using the Secret Saviours band and creams for a few short weeks, I haven’t developed many new stretch marks.

Now don’t get me wrong, let’s embrace the tiger stripes, our badge of Warrior, but it’s not always easy or wanted to ignore them. Sometimes we feel better about ourselves if we can prevent the obvious battle wounds.

Wearing the Secret Saviours bump band

As well as the specially formulated creams (day and night) you also get a belly band. This helps the cream really sink into your skin, but also provides an excellent extra support, especially helpful for those of us with large bumps or painful hips. The band has really provided a lot of support for myself lately, and I’ll be continuing to use it to aid recovery post birth too.
I’m going to concentrate on what an amazing thing my body has/is doing. Possibly clichéd, but seriously! I am growing a person. The second person it has grown. An actual human being. With a heart and brain and toes and arms…seriously!? It’s mind blowing stuff when you start to really think about it. Who cares if you’re flabbier than before when you have grown a person!
Secret Saviours just helps me with this, and feeling more confident in my own skin.

36 weeks – growing a person!!

As well as trying to keep thoughts about what my body is capable of positive, I’m aware that there are other factors that may need to help in keeping this positive attitude.

Finding items in my wardrobe that will accentuate the parts of me that I like more, but not simply hiding under baggy tops. I mean winter is going to come with comfy hoodies, but as long as I’m embracing them for the season and not hiding in them feeling sad and frumpy.
So here is stage one of my body positive plans. Telling you all that I’m going to have a plan!
If anyone has any advice or can offer ideas to support this, or if anyone wants to join in and we can pledge to be happier and more positive together, please let me know!
Mrs H xxx

Disclosure – I’ve been sent a Secret Saviours kit to review, all thoughts and opinions (and pledges to be body positive!) are honest and my own 

Zodiac Sign – #Blogtober16 Day 18 

I’m an Aquarius, which is the water carrier. Which is also really confusing because apparently it’s an air sign!? How is the water carrier an air sign?!

I consider myself fairly hippyish when it comes to things like being aware of full moons, using Amber for teething, planting lavender for luck etc and I used to read my horoscopes in magazines and papers all the time.

But of course I’d only believe them or relate to them if they were nice.

As for the kind of person you’re supposed to be because of your sign, I’ve never really noticed or looked into what that should be.

A brief Google search tells me that an Aquarius is philanthropic and humanitarian, which I wouldn’t say was untrue at all, but possibly not my strongest focus.

It also says I’m not great at displaying emotion, which is massively untrue. I can cry at an advert let alone a sad film! 

Mrs H xxx 

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Favourite Concert You Attended – #Blogtober16 Day 17 

I can’t say I’ve been to many concerts over the years. I enjoy them when I’m there but it’s never a big deal to actually go.

I really wanted to go to the McFly concerts this year, but I could only get standing tickets which was not at all realistic being about 7 months pregnant at the time.

I’d probably say my favourite concert I’ve been to is a Boyzone concert a few years ago. Proper cheesy but I love them and I’m not ashamed to say that an album still features in my cars’ playlist selection. 

I’d choose this concert as my favourite because I got to go with my cousin. 

We loved the band when we were little, so it was really fun to enjoy and reminisce about childhood memories and sing along again. It was funny to remember who we had crushes on as little girls and how that had changed. 

We both had a thing for Stephen, and aged about 6/7 were both convinced we had a chance at marrying him in the future…my cousin had priority of course because she was older than me. Turned out neither of us had a chance!
We were really close as young kids, but as we’ve got older we don’t spend as much time together, obviously life is different for both of us and it’s inevitable it’ll happen, so it was lovely to enjoy the experience together.

It was also the last concert tour Boyzone did with all of the band members, before Steven tragically passed away, which in hindsight is really special to have got to see them. 
 

Mrs H xxx

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Piercings and Tattoos – #Blogtober16 Day 16 

I love tattoos. I’ve even got a board on Pinterest for my favourite tattoo ideas. I’d be covered in them if I went for every idea that I love. 

They’re so intricate and detailed, at least the good ones are! Such works of art.

So how many have I got if I love them so much? Uh…none! 

I got my mum to take me for my first tattoo when I was 17, a very swirly, arty butterfly, but they wouldn’t do it until I was 18, despite my mum being there saying she gave permission.

So I’d go back at 18 and get it done…except 17 year old me seemed to be a lot braver than 18 year old me, or any me since! 

I’ve totally wimped out! I’d still really love one, but I’m worried I’d choose the wrong thing or have it in a place I wish I could change, I’m quite a fickle person and I worry I’d regret it long term. 

I was going to get a small one for my birthday last January (a deathly hallows symbol because I LOVE Harry Potter and that’s not changed for a very long time) but then I found out I was pregnant so maybe next year.

Piercings, I’ve only got my ears pierced. I wanted to get my tongue pierced many years ago but found out I have a tongue tie so it’s not possible (also probably why I wasn’t very good at breast feeding when I was a baby!).

I was going to get a daith piercing as they’re supposed to help with migraines, and I suffer terribly. I’ve no idea if it actually helps, but after suffering for over 20 years with migraines I’ll try anything!

Again pregnancy put a stop to that piercing for the time being. 

Maybe next birthday I’ll suddenly get lots of piercings and a full sleeve of tattoos!? Doubtful…I’ll probably still be a wimp :D 

Mrs H xxx

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What’s In My Fridge? – #Blogtober16 Day 13

Honestly? Not a lot! 
Despite my intentions to start meal planning a couple of weeks ago, I’ve still not got my head round getting it organised. 

I’m hoping to get an online shop sorted soon so at least we’ll be stocked up when Baby gets here. More than likely it’ll include a fair few ready meals, just to make sure we actually do eat! 

I’m looking forward to lots of lovely Autumn meals. There is currently a lasagne waiting in the fridge, which is a start I guess! 

I can’t wait to make a big batch of Chorizo and Beef chilli too, one of my favourite Autumn meals.

Really I dream of having a fully stocked fridge…but if it’s full, it’s probably mostly mouldy!!

Mrs H xxx 

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