Category: BlogLife

A Rant About Toilets…As You Do

This is not the post I had planned to write today, but as I seem to be last minute Larry and forget to finish editing my post I’m going to have a quick rant about something that really wound me up today!

Myself, Mr H and B ended up going to a Wetherspoons for lunch today. Before we left to drive the half hour home I took B to change his nappy. We traipsed to the toilets upstairs but found no changing facilities. Not even a space next to the sink where I could at least lay him (and anti bac after of course!). A lovely woman informed me that the changing facilities were downstairs (annoying but not world ending) in the disabled toilets.

Here comes ranting point number one…. WHY ARE WE STILL PUTTING BABY CHANGING IN THE DISABLED LOOS???? Seriously?! Oh can get really compact ones, they fold down, they will fit in the standard toilets. Stop making me use a vital disabled facility to change a small child’s bum!! It is unfair on anyone who rightfully needs to use it.

Reluctantly I headed back downstairs. I’d have resorted to laying him on the floor but one of the loos has flooded and there was patches of water and grubby shoe marks everywhere. Fine, I’d use the disabled loo as fast as I could.

And this is when I encountered rage making point number two….it was locked. Up on the wall was a big sign announcing that it could only be opened by a member of staff when asked. So I asked. 5 minutes later no one had turned up and I gave up and left huffing and puffing, but let’s face it, this was a minor inconvenience for me and just irritating. But what if I was the disabled person who needed the loo??

WHY ARE DISABLED TOILETS KEPT LOCKED AND ONLY OPENED ON REQUEST???? Many people require the use of these facilities because they won’t have the time to make it to the other loos. Or as a human they may have waited til the last minute, for whatever reason, and be desperate. Why do they have to ask to just go to the toilet? Why should anyone have to wait for someone to unlock the door for them? A grown adult shouldn’t be made to ask! Lots of people would find that embarrassing, or just too time consuming and it could cause an accident for them! It just seems absolutely ridiculous!!

What do you think? Am I justified in my annoyance, or am I ranting over nothing??

Mrs H xxx

#Blogtober18

Blogtober Is Back! A Brief Reflection

This is the third year I’m joining in with #Blogtober and I’m excited it’s back.

This time of year always has me feeling more productive and excited for the coming season, so Blogtober feels much more achievable than if it was any other month for me.

Last year I didn’t actually manage to do the whole month, which is a little embarrassing considering I did manage it the first year, and I had a baby during October that first year! I was actually really disappointed with myself last year, for not being able to do it all. But now as I look back on this last year I’m actually pretty pleased that I achieved any of it.

I can’t remember writing any of the posts. I can’t remember sitting down and starting a post. I can’t remember making the photo for every post. In fact there’s a lot of the last year and a half that I don’t remember. And every so often little flashbacks of things come back to me. Some are good, some are not so good.

Postnatal anxiety and depression affected me more than I ever knew. And it’s only now that I’m spending more time on the “good side” that I notice just how ill I was.

I’ve been medicated for almost a year now and for me they’ve been little miracles. I know medication won’t be for everyone but they’ve truly helped bring me back to being me. I don’t know if it’s something I’ll need forever or if they’ll just help me reset and I can ditch them. Either way I’m not too bothered. If I had something like diabetes or epilepsy then there would be no question of taking medication for the rest of my life.

Now of course, the last year has been about so much more than PND and PNA, but starting Blogtober again gave me a little time to reflect on this time last year.

Will I complete #Blogtober18 ? No idea! But if I don’t, it won’t be because I’m not well. And I’m excited to try!

Mrs H xxx

#Blogtober18

Friday Favourites – My 5 Holiday Essentials

*this post contains items that I have been sent or previously sent to review. I will clearly state which items these are. All opinions and thoughts are my own*

Over the last 4 years (so not ok with saying I have a 4 year old *sobs*) we’ve got to use a lot of different travel products and I’m starting to know what we really need and what we can do without taking up suitcase space.

Recently we went on what’s becoming our annual family holiday to Portugal and we’re very lucky to be looking forward to a couple of staycations, camping trips and a holiday to France later this year. Packing space isn’t going to be excessive for any of these trips so these 5 products really are my must haves.

Babymule changing bag – I was sent this to review just before B was born and it’s still an essential these days, possibly even more so with two young children!

It’s the perfect bag to use for carry on luggage and for day trips. The different compartments and accessories mean I can pack plenty for everyone and access it all. The separate bag, I use for nappies and wipes, is perfect for a quick dash to the loos or to pass to someone else taking them to get changed without having to take the entire bag or pull everything out in the search for stuff.

Diono buggy buddy – there’s a fair few different brands of these organisers, but this is the one we use and love since G was tiny.

It always hangs at the right angle whenever the pushchair handles are adjusted, and it’s got a great amount of space to be able to hold some essentials. It’s also got two cup holders for yours or the kids’ drinks.

Nom Nom snack pouches – we’ve previously reviewed both the purée pouches and snack pouches and have been brand reps for them too, and I still can’t fault them. Snacks are an essential part of keeping everyone happy on holiday (and at home!) and these are a brilliant way to pack an easy to grab selection. And when they’re pressed closed they really are super strong, which means snacks aren’t exploding all over the place.

Nuby Flip It Beakers – there’s lots of cups and beakers we’ve tried and use in the house, but I’ve found these to be my favourite when traveling.

They’re suitable to be used by both kids, less arguments about who’s is who’s, and the straw can be closed easily to keep it cleaner. And it doesn’t leak much when launched across a restaurant *facepalm*.

Snoozeshade – we were recently sent the Snoozeshade plus deluxe to review, but we’ve been using the original for years and it’s just brilliant. It’s fantastic to have the reassurance that the children are able to have some safe space out of the sun and a darkened place to nap on the go.

The deluxe plus (not surprisingly) is even better than the original. The double front panels are perfect for nosey children (oh hi B!) to be able to see out but have some cover and sun protection even when not asleep, so there’s no need to take the whole shade off which is what we used to have to do. Now the shade can stay on, great for days out in the sun, and just close up the panels for an on the go nap.

It’s also great for light rain showers, so when packing space is limited I can get away without packing a rain cover.

There’s definitely a lot more that I like to pack for trips and holidays, but these are the 5 items that I really REALLY don’t like to be without. In fact on our recent trip to Portugal we didn’t take a Snoozeshade with us, and I genuinely missed having it every day we went out. I will not be making that mistake again!

What are your holiday essentials that you cannot be without?

Mrs H xxx

Starting Friday Favourites – Instagram stories

I’m starting a new series on The Herniman House; Friday Favourites.

Ending the week with a little happiness and hopefully spreading a little bit of joy with 5 of my favourite things.

Topics are going to vary and cover lots of things, from my favourite blogs to read or Instagrams to see,to my favourite books, local restaurants, crafts and everything in between. Sometimes it’ll be to share some info or just to share some joy.

I think it’s going to be nice to be able to have a happy post and spread a little bit of happiness and love at the end of a long week.

So to kick it off I’m going to start with my 5 favourite instagram accounts for instastories (there’s absolutely LOADS I love, so I’m certain that this won’t be the only Friday Favourites about instagram, but these are my top 5 this week)

Teen Tween Toddler – always number one on my stories feed. Her stories are honest, funny, emotional and I just love having an insight into day to day life. Her children are so gorgeous and funny (and occasionally terrors, which I can feel all the solidarity with!)

And I can’t ignore our obvious connection, we both LOVE Harry Potter!! And a Harry Potter Primark haul! Perfect!

Instagram @teentweentoddler

Nomipalony – this beautiful Geordie is funny, honest and teaches me so much about the path of feminism. She’s wonderfully honest about all things breastfeeding, periods and parenting. And her patient and positive parenting is really inspiring to me.

Instagram @nomipalony

Candice Braithwaite – if you’re not following Candice by now you absolutely need to go and follow her NOW! No one has been more honest about pregnancy and postpartum life.

Her “Teatime” talks are honest and genuinely help teach and inspire people of so many life issues. And she is the founder and writer of “Make Motherhood Diverse” championing a space to highlight all stories of motherhood, from all backgrounds, cultures and walks of life.

Instagram @candicebraithwaite

Hi Baby Blog – I have a total woman crush on this wonderful human. The hardest working woman I think I know, and she does it all with pretty much ZERO childcare! As lovely as her little one is (I could listen to Lu talk aaaallll day long! Super sweet, and that accent?! Too cute!!) to achieve everything she does whilst looking after a small child is amazing.

Another account that inspires me with her honesty and her example of gentle parenting.

Instagram @hibaby.blog

(Can you sense my theme yet?!)

Toby And Roo – this supermum of three tops off my list of honest and inspiring women. Sharing the deepest, darkest details of her life as well as all the stuff you didn’t know you needed to know about life with kids. And to be able to watch her juggle working mum life and hear her honest stories about triumphs and fails is just the thing we, parents especially, need to see.

Instagram @tobyandroo
Please feel free to join in with Friday Favourites (it may turn into a linky one day!) and share your top 5, either using my theme for the week or sharing your own. And if you tag me to let me know I’ll share them over social media too.

Mrs H xxx

I’m Not Irish. But I Am A Woman. And I Urge You To Repeal

If you follow me on social media, either via my blog or on my personal accounts, you will see that I have been increasingly vocal regarding the irish referendum this week.

And I guess unsurprisingly I have received a couple of messages questioning my strong views because I’m not irish. That’s right, I’m not. None of my immediate family is irish. I have never lived there. In fact I’ve only ever visited northern ireland for one weekend (side note: definitely something to rectify travel wise!). So why would I care so much?? My answer; why would I not?!

I know it’s what everyone says, but seriously. it’s 2018!! Why are women across the world still not trusted to have autonomy over their own bodies. They cannot make decisions about themselves. Ireland is literally the closest country to the uk and the law is so unbelievably outdated that there are humans refusing other humans life saving treatment. Women are dying, suffering, physically and mentally hurting, because of the decisions of others. Decisions that are made on their behalf and in spite of what they need. And despite the divide in the actual country, the republic of ireland still has influence over the laws in northern ireland, so they do not have the same rights as the rest of the uk. Repealing the 8th amendment could mean that the rights of those in part of the UK are changed to catch up with the rest of us.

I cannot comprehend someone telling me what is right for me and my body and therefore I cannot comprehend keeping quiet about the rights of other women, mothers, sisters, friends, aunties, cousins, that are sentenced to suffer alone, ashamed and in a strange country or a darkened bedroom. That are left to take unimaginable risks to be able to control their bodies. That are quietly bleeding, unable to tell anyone in case they are reported and arrested. That are mentally struggling and recieving no help or support. If a woman was raped and fell pregnant, she could face longer in jail for that the despicable being who raped her. Because please make no mistake, abortions being illegal will never stop abortions. It merely stops safe abortions.

Let me just say that again. A woman could be pregnant as a result of a brutal rape, an event no one would ever forget or fully move on from, but would be expected to carry a pregnancy to term if it occured, and if she made a decision that that wouldn’t be possible, which I don’t know how anyone can argue with, she could face a longer custodial sentence than the person who violently and cruelly raped her. It’s like something out of a television drama, but this is what is facing the lives of every single woman in ireland.

Perhaps the story that stands out the most to me is the utterly tragic story of Savita Halappanavar who in 2012 – a mere 6 years ago – went into a Galway hospital at 17 weeks pregnant. She was miscarrying and the pregnancy turned septic. A miscarriage is a tragic and awful thing to happen and completely impossible to reverse. There was zero percent chance of saving that pregnancy. absolutely impossible. But when doctors scanned Savita, they found that the poor baby still had a faint heartbeat.

That poor baby that sadly would never, ever have the chance to live had the faintest of heartbeats and therefore for those doctors, took precedence over its mother. Savita requested a medical abortion as the natural process was very prolonged, but this was denied as her life was not seen to be in danger. She was denied medical treatment because of a baby who, very sadly, was not going to live. Because of this delay in treatment Savita developed fatal sepsis and died. So when I hear that keeping this archaic and outdated legislation is about saving lives, I really cannot get my head around it. Instead of saving a woman’s life, a life with history and much more potential two lives were lost, one completely pointlessly.

This law is about so much more than just abortions, and whether they are right or wrong.  The presence of the 8th amendment is quite simply a source of discrimination against women. It ensures that the health system discriminates against them. That professionals discriminate against them. It ensures that pregnant women are subjected to intense physical examinations against their will. It means that a healthcare professional can decide what a pregnant woman can and cannot do. All this in a country where contraception was illegal until as recently as 1980 and where a percentage of the population still opposes the use of artificial contraception.

Repealing the 8th will allow the regulation of pregnancy. It will mean that women are not psychologically tortured, that they are not forced to leave their homes to travel for treatment, victims of rape and abuse will not become more criminal than the vermin who subject them to it, and that those who tragically have pregnancies that are impossible to survive are not forced to prolong their pain and suffering.

No, I’m not irish. but I am a woman. I care deeply that others may have the same rights, may be trusted to make their own decisions, may know what is best for them and their bodies as I have.

You only have to look at the hashtag #HomeForYes to see how important this is, how far people are traveling to use their vote – as postal votes do not exist for Ireland, nor can you vote if you left Ireland over 18 months ago, even if it was your home for decades.

If by chance you are reading this ahead of the vote and you have the right to vote, I implore you to please vote yes. Vote to trust, vote to change and vote to care. Every single vote for yes matters. Please. Repeal the 8th amendment.

Mrs H xxx